October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month, and October 15h is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Remembrance Day.
If you’re reading this and you’re not a loss parent, I want you to know that I am so glad to have you in my life, whether you’re an Internet friend or an in-person friend. You, friend, clicked on this post even though remembering pregnancy and infant loss is a sad affair. You clicked this post because you are a lovely, empathetic person, and those of us who’ve experienced pregnancy & infant loss are lucky to have you in our lives. Thank you for your deep empathy, your hugs, and your supportive love.
If you’re not a loss parent, this day might sound pretty dang sad. I mean, it’s a day to remember babies that didn’t make it to live the lives they were made to live. That’s pretty freaking sad. For those of us on the other side, though, we’ll take pretty much any excuse to tell you about our babies, and this day gives us that. We have this entire month (and specifically this day) to say “Hey, this happened to me, and my baby(ies) is real and my loss is deep and I want to tell you about him/her/them”. Of course, if you’re close to this issue, you probably think/hear about it much more than just one month out of the year.
For me/us, this is life. I live this truth every day, remembering my little guy. Never a day goes by for me when it’s not Jonah remembrance day, and this day/month, I get to tell you all about him. I mean, I’ve never been particularly quiet about Jonah, so you, dear readers, get to hear about him all the time. Others, though, might not be so vocal. There are women across the world who are hurting and grieving due to pregnancy and infant loss, and they deserve this day/month to know that those babies really matter to the world.
So, if there’s a loss parent in your life, today is a great day to just remind them that you care, and that you remember their child(ren).
As for me, I’m going to settle in and watch the Packer vs Viking game (go Pack go!) and quietly enjoy the day. Jonah will be there, just like he is every day, holding my hand through this journey of grief and life, but I’ll definitely be thinking about him extra. If you could give him and I and anyone else in your life who has lost a baby a couple extra thoughts on this day, we would love that very much <3.